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As the narrative moves through the students’ tragic life stories, one fact emerges clearly: These youths did not develop their criminal tendencies in a vacuum. They all came from families that had been dysfunctional for generations. In Ronnie’s case, his mother had already experienced her own neglectful and abusive childhood: “Marina was one of eleven children […] Marina’s father was a Pentecostal minister who had a small congregation. In the pulpit, he led his flock through hail, fire, and brimstone to salvation. At home, he was hail, fire, and brimstone” (27).
Marina’s father beat her mother and sexually assaulted Marina from the time she was 11 years old. As so often happens in such cases, Marina’s mother refused to believe the abuse allegations. Instead, Marina was sent to a youth facility. As an adult, she developed a cocaine addiction that exacerbated her own neglectful parenting of her two young sons. Marina says, “After that, it was nothing but coke. Coke, coke, coke. I was going to college, I wanted to be a registered nurse. I had grants, every two weeks I got a check for five hundred dollars. We used that money to buy drugs” (35).
The other adult in Ronnie’s life, his stepfather, Jimmie, came from a family that was just as dysfunctional as Marina’s. Ronnie describes a family picnic at Jimmie’s where kids drank beer while the adults set off large firecrackers and used automatic weapons during target practice. Jimmie also tried to instigate a fist fight between Ronnie and another boy for the adults’ amusement. In later years, Ronnie bonded with Jimmie over drugs and guns, which pulled Ronnie into Jimmie’s familial crime ring.
As for Elena, her family was just as dysfunctional as Ronnie’s. Nearly all her extended family have criminal records. Her mother exhibited the same poor parenting skills that Marina did toward Ronnie:
Elena despised her mother. It wasn’t so much that Lucy was always away, working at one menial job or another; or that she drank and used drugs and was often unstable; or even that her reaction to most problems, large or small, was to hit the child who presented them. She didn’t listen to Elena; did not respond to things she told her, like how badly the spray-addicted neighbors were treating her and her sisters (198).
Given the wrenching conditions under which these children developed, they would naturally gravitate to gangs. Gang membership often gives COG students the only sense of family stability and emotional attachment they have ever known. As a therapist points out, “Before a youth will leave a gang, she has to believe that she can achieve ‘the good things’—acceptance, respect, and love—outside her set” (219). Young people who are trapped in a legacy of dysfunction often don’t understand that others are also being traumatized in similar ways. They have endured multiple rejections, betrayals of trust, and physical and emotional violations perpetrated by their own family members, many of whom were treated similarly by their own families. Craving security, identity, and a place of belonging, vulnerable youths can find a proxy family in gangs, but this family is also riddled with violence and abuse, similar to the inherited cycles of dysfunction that they are trying to flee. The COG attempts to teach students to break this cycle by breaking their inherited behavioral, mental, and emotional patterns.
The students presented in the book are filled with rage. This is natural, given the familial abuse they survived. However, their anger masks an underlying, unacknowledged hurt that, unaddressed, may only further perpetuate their own abusive behavior. Allowing anger to fuel their callousness, these students feel justified in exploiting others because they were exploited themselves. These notions represent “thinking errors.” The author writes, “These kids have used them in a way that has harmed others, and will allow them to keep on harming others, if their thought processes are not confronted and altered” (5-6).
There are many theories about how to change thought processes, and while some psychologists advocate talking through past trauma, the COG therapists believe in the power of psychodrama—using imaginative reenactment to achieve emotional catharsis and healing. The therapy at Giddings includes a talk component, but it also uses role-play to allow the students to act out their deepest traumas under the assumption that actions speak louder than words. One student says, “A role play is an experience that’s out of this world […] One moment, you are in the room. The next moment, you are back there as a kid. You’re really there!” (13). A psychologist explains to the students, “Role plays are about connecting thoughts with feelings […] A lot of you haven’t let yourselves feel. That’s dangerous. If you can’t feel for yourself, you won’t feel for anybody else. You’ll go out there and reoffend” (13).
The role-playing follows a specific pattern to help students experience the past from their own viewpoint as well as from the viewpoints of their victims. For the other cast members, their assigned roles reenact might also trigger their own past pain:
Life stories are about what was done to these boys; the next step—crime stories—will be about what they did to others. A therapist will drape an arm around a boy and stroke his head when he breaks down and sobs while telling his life story. When he tells his crime story, that same therapist turns very tough. She will go after him, and stay after him, until he faces the horrors he has inflicted (10-11).
This grueling introspection usually leads to a psychological breakthrough, or catharsis. During Ronnie’s reenactment, he can finally see how it felt to be on the receiving end of his brutality: “At this point the role play begins to feel like an exorcism. If you didn’t know better, you would swear demons were leaving Ronnie and swirling around him” (140). Elena has a similar catharsis during her role-play: “The reenactment ends with Elena wailing on the floor. It took a lot of energy to keep the front up, to act hard while all along she was hurting because she hurt someone” (221).
The process is harrowing for both the storyteller and the other actors. Confronting one’s demons, even at a distance, requires the love and support of caring therapists and empathetic fellow sufferers. The goal is to revive feelings in the COG students on the premise that even when that emotion is guilt or regret, it’s healthier than a lifetime of cold rage.
An spectator of the elaborate role-play exercises might wonder what the goal is. The students frequently feel guilt and remorse once they reenact the role of their victims, and this breakthrough lies in the quality of empathy. As one therapist says:
Listening to their stories, I saw a lack of empathy in these kids […] They were full of anger, hostility, aggression, resentment, and they refused to accept responsibility. The more stories I heard, the more that empathy seemed to be the critical thing. Empathy keeps you from doing something that might harm someone. We had to find a way to build empathy (14).
While the COG students must examine their past actions in an excruciatingly personal way, Hubner posits that the average imprisoned person suffers nowhere nearly as much as these young people. As he notes, “In a way, the prison system allows criminals to keep on running because it does not make them confront themselves” (8), and when these criminals are released, they are only angrier than they were before imprisonment. In contrast, the students must face the worst thing that they have done—and, if the therapy is successful, they will interpret those past events through the filter of empathy. This is not an easy task, and the author points out the irony of the word empathy seeming so “soft” when, in the COG program, “it describes a rigorous, demanding, life-and-death struggle (7-8).
Empathy is so difficult because, for the first time, the students are learning to check their behavior rather than waiting for law enforcement to punish them. When a youth relies on others to control their criminal behavior, a court hands down a sentence, and juvenile offenders can continue to indulge their anger without ever coming to grips with their agency in committing a crime. One of the therapists explains:
People tend to think that empathy leads to forgiveness, but forgiveness is too easy, way too easy […] Kids say, ‘I’m sorry for what I did, I forgive myself, I’m going to move past it.’ Empathy is far more difficult. Having empathy means taking responsibility. It means making a choice: the things a youth has done to others will never happen to someone else because of him. In a sense, empathy means being your own father, your own mother (8).
Comparing empathy to an inner parent is an apt analogy. Because the students never had a good parent to model behavior for them, they must assume that role themselves. An internal parent can forgive while still holding children accountable for their behavior. In its most elemental form, empathy is an admission that all people deserve to be treated with respect. Without empathy, offenders feel entitled to hurt others as they themselves have been hurt. Those who have mastered empathy no longer feel so justified.