Inner Excellence: Train Your Mind for Extraordinary Performance and the Best Possible Life

Inner Excellence emphasizes that attaching one’s identity to achievements, possessions, or status creates vulnerability when circumstances change, as illustrated by Murphy’s samurai ancestor Bunpachiro, who lost his purpose when the samurai era ended. By contrast, the book argues that anchoring one’s identity in inner qualities provides stability regardless of external circumstances. This means separating performance from self-worth by asking, “What did I learn?” rather than “How did I do?” after each competition, presentation, or otherwise high-stakes experience. Professional athletes who thrive long-term master this separation, focusing on growth rather than outcomes. The author further recommends distinguishing between critique of one’s performance and critique of one’s worth when receiving feedback, as well as developing process goals (giving one’s best, staying present, practicing gratitude, focusing on controllable factors) rather than fixating on outcome goals. For example, an employee who receives a negative performance review may benefit from reminding themselves that they are not their job, while a runner might shift their focus from achieving a particular time to taking in the sights and sounds of the race. According to Murphy, this shift creates freedom to perform without the crushing weight of self-judgment, allowing the individual to take risks and express their authentic talents.