8 Rules of Love: How to Find it, Keep it, and Let it Go

What other spiritual or religious traditions might inform an approach to relationships? What rules could be gleaned from these traditions?

What is the difference between the book’s concept of karma and how people in the United States generally view karma? How did karma come to mean suffering the consequences of bad decisions, and how does that differ from Shetty’s definition?

How do you and your partner resolve conflict? Do you view the process differently after reading the book? What will you change or maintain?

If you’re single, will the rules in the book change your dating and relationship choices? How and why?

Shetty discusses the use of new experiences to help partners bond and increase their interest in each other. What new experiences have you tried with your partner, and how did it improve your bonding?

The book outlines eight rules of love that move from singlehood to breakups. What rules does it leave out? What would you add?

The book uses the structure of the four Vedic stages of life, from student life, to married life, to retired life, to renounced life. How do these stages parallel the movement through a relationship in your life? How do these stages mirror the movement from being single to being married? How do they differ?

The book uses Hindu spiritual ideas that emphasize non-Western perspectives. What are the ways it emphasizes Western perspectives on relationships, purpose, or other topics discussed?